Feeling The Love!

 

In the workshop I teach on strengthening our ability to be kind toward ourselves, one of the tools I use may not, at first, seem obvious. It's the act of turning our attention toward what is good and well in our lives. When we direct our attention this way, it rewards us by giving us a chance to savor and be nourished. Who doesn't want to take in more of a good thing! Rather than roll on through to the next moment and miss out, we can receive and let ourselves feel satisfied, happy, and full. This is a choice. When we are aware, we can make these kinds of choices which, ultimately, effect our well-being. 

Today's pause is a practice I shared in last week's A Mindful Life groups and is one that we can do again and again. Remember that it only works if you do it. To read about it is not enough, so give it a full-hearted try. You are worth taking the time for.

You can do this in writing or as a meditation. You can do it at the end of a day or the end of a week. For today's practice, think through the past few days and name all the ways, big and small, that you felt loved (or valued, or appreciated). Keep going with the refrain, "I felt loved when..." With each one, take a breath and feel it again in your whole being or, maybe feel it for the first time if you didn't allow yourself to in the moment it happened (this happens more often then we might realize). Keep the refrain going longer than you think you need to. In waiting, more might come to mind, especially the simple things we tend to overlook. At the end, note how it feels to recognize the love that came our way.

While this practice is self-rewarding, it has the potential to spread goodness because we realize that the acts of love we receive are also ones we can give. We understand that the nice things we do matter to people. They may seem small or insignificant, but they make a difference. Just like we appreciate being the recipients of love, we can make choices to help others feel loved, too. The next step is to ask if there are ways you would like to express love in the coming day(s). It's not that you don't already, but sometimes we can think someone already knows we appreciate them and so we don't say it. Or, we think it wouldn't matter much to the person, but as we see for ourselves, it does. We can be generous in our love. Why hold it back? 

Be kind to yourself. You are the best one for the job. Be on your team.

Wishing you a week of loving abundance.

🌼
Jean